Going through a Separation can be one of the most harrowing experiences in your life. You can experience grief, overwhelm, and confusion. Here are five common mistakes made by people, especially in the earlier stages of separation and divorce, which can cause them to come unstuck in the process:

1. Oversharing on Social Media

It might feel natural to vent online, but social media can be a legal landmine during family disputes. Posts, comments, or photos can be used against you in court and may even breach the Family Law Act, resulting in fines or more serious consequences. Sharing details about your case online could harm your credibility or influence property and parenting decisions. When in doubt, stay offline!

2. Delaying Getting Support and Advice

Too often, people wait until things escalate before getting advice to help them get emotionally supported, to be educated on the process, understand their rights, to make informed decisions, to prevent them from unintentionally inflaming negotiations. Remember, there is no automatic 50/50 split in parenting or property matters. Avoid being pressured into unfair agreements and avoid reliance on well-meaning but uninformed advice from friends or family.

3. Avoiding Full Financial Disclosure

Financial transparency is non-negotiable in family law property matters. If one party withholds financial information, it can jeopardise the fairness of the property settlement and lead to serious legal consequences, including potential imprisonment.

4. Ignoring Your Own Well-Being

The stress of legal matters is often compounded by emotional burnout. The impact can take a serious toll on your mental and physical health. Seeking support from our team of counsellors, separation coaches or support groups isn’t just good for your health—it can help your legal case, too. A clear head will help you make better decisions for your future and enable you to continue supporting your children through this difficult time.

5. Relying on Informal Agreements

Verbal or informal (non binding) agreements may seem convenient but can unravel quickly —especially if one party's financial circumstances change. To protect yourself long-term, ensure all agreements are formalised through Court Orders or Financial Agreements. This is particularly important in parenting arrangements, where informal arrangements can lead to disputes or even child access issues. Formal agreements, such as a parenting plan or Consent Orders provide clarity and protect both parents and children.

Family law doesn’t just affect the present—it shapes your future. By avoiding these common mistakes, you protect your rights, your children, and your peace of mind. Don’t hesitate to seek assistance early—it could save you time, money, and heartache down the line.

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